Cover girl Uma Thurman tells the upcoming issue of W magazine that she’s ready to give marriage and fame another shot after her messy divorce (from Ethan Hawke) and years of living under a rock.

The 39-year-old actress is just beginning to promote Motherhood, due out next month. Some highlights of W’s chat with her:

Uma on when she wed fiance Arpad “Arki” Busson: “I’m happily engaged, but we haven’t set a wedding up. I’m not in a rush to do anything. One day we’ll do it, when we’re ready.”

Uma on approaching 40: “I can’t say my 30s were the easiest time. And I had thought my 20s were hard! … You know, that’s the worst mistake a woman can make, to think, Oh, I’m 32 and I’ve had two kids and I’ve worked since I was 16 and now it’s going to get easier. Because as soon as you think that, you’re doomed! You’re absolutely doomed!”

Uma on regrets: “I feel like I lived my life backwards. Like Bob Dylan said, ‘I was so much older then; I’m younger than that now.’ Getting older has been a process of realizing that I wasn’t as grown up as I had thought. When I was a teenager people often referred to me as jaded or knowing. It’s a classic teen illusion to think you know it all, but I’ve certainly learned I don’t. I’ve certainly learned the hard way.”